10 MORE clichés Christians should avoidBy Christian Piatt
After writing up my first list of “10 Clichés Christians Should Never Use,” some folks wrote me with other suggestions. After simmering on it for a while, I came up with a second list of 10 to supplement the first.
And as there was some confusions from a handful of fellow Christians about the intent of the articles. These are not intended to tell you to believe or not believe a certain set of things. Christians have a public relations problem, that much is self-evident. So inasmuch as I can respond to that, I want to offer these as advice on how to change the way we approach people about our faith.
On to the next 10 clichés for Christians to avoid:
1) Love the sinner, hate the sin. This is a backhanded way to tell someone you love them, at best. It also ignores the command by Jesus not to focus on the splinter in our neighbors’ eyes while a plank remains in our own. Bottom line: We all screw up, and naming others’ sin as noteworthy while remaining silent about your own is arrogant.
2) The Bible clearly says… Two points on this one. First, unless you’re a biblical scholar who knows the historical and cultural contexts of the Scriptures and can read them in their original languages, the Bible isn’t “clear” about much. Yes, we can pick and choose verses that say one thing or another, but by whom was it originally said, and to whom? Cherry-picking Scripture to make a point is called proof-texting, and it’s a theological no-no. Second, the Bible can be used to make nearly any point we care to (anyone want to justify slavery?), so let’s not use it as a billy club against each other.
3) God needed another angel in heaven, so He called him/her home. Another well-meaning but insensitive thing to say. This assumes a lot about what the person you’re speaking to believes, and it also ignores the grief they’re going through. The person who died is, well, dead. Focus on the needs of the living right in front of you.
4) Are you saved? I’ve addressed the theological understandings of hell and judgment in other pieces, but regardless of whether you believe in hell, this is a very unattractive thing to say. First, it implies a power/privilege imbalance (i.e., “I’m saved, but I’m guessing you’re not based on some assumptions I’m making about you”), and it also leaps over the hurdle of personal investment and relationship, straight into the deep waters of personal faith. If you take the time to learn someone’s story, you’ll likely learn plenty about what they think and believe in the process. And who knows? You might actually learn something too, rather than just telling others what they should believe.
5) The Lord never gives someone more than they can handle. What about people with mental illness? What about people in war-torn countries who are tortured to death? And this also implies that, if really horrible things are happening to you, God “gave” it to you. Is this a test? Am I being punished? Is God just arbitrarily cruel? Just don’t say it.
6) America was founded as a Christian nation. Honestly, I find it hard to believe we are still having this conversation, but here we are. Anyone with a cursory understanding of history understands that we were founded on the principle of religious liberty — not just the liberty to be a Christian — and that many of the founding fathers explicitly were not Christian. Thomas Jefferson, anyone?
7) The Bible says it; I believe it; that settles it. If ever there was a top-shelf conversation killer this is it. You’re not inviting any opinion, response, thought or the like. You’re simply making a claim and telling others to shut up. Also, I’ve yet to meet someone who takes EVERY WORD of the Bible literally. Everyone qualifies something in it, like the parts about keeping kosher, wearing blended fibers, stoning adulterers, tossing your virgin daughters into the hands of an angry mob … You get the point.
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